Monday, January 26, 2009

Some improvements...

OK, so I had a parent/teacher conference and the news was not good...they think something more may be going on with Maddie, as in maybe my friends husband did something more. I got Maddie in to talk to someone last week and it went very well. Took her out to the Olive Garden first, which she said was "lovely" then to the book store and finally to Hobby Lobby to pick up some crafts for her to do. The appointment went well, she didn't really open up, but she liked the lady and has asked to go back...this is good news.

Last week at the laundry mat, there was a little boy there that had been giving Maddie problems at school. When I mentioned something to the school they said "we don't like to approach him because he's very emotional, just ask Maddie to stay away from him"....great, thanks a-holes. So she walked up to this kid in the laundry mat and said "you're mean" and walked away. This little boys father then started yelling at Maddie (a man, and a stranger!). Needless to say, I went ape shit, and that's putting it mildly. I don't consider myself tall really, 5'9", but I towered over this guy by almost a foot. I had some harsh words for him for yelling at my child and then he started yelling at me. I offered to step outside with him (not one of my finer, more mature moments...and afterward I apologized to everyone in the laundry mat for having to witness it). Then I said the magic words...I said we recognized his son from school and that he's been picking on Maddie. He backed off immediately, I'm sure this wasn't the first time he's dealt with his sons behavior at school. Crisis averted, he was gone by the time we returned from the store. The following Wednesday his son went up to Maddie out of the blue and apologized to her. That's the same day she started telling me she loved me again and hugging and kissing me...I guess she needed to see me stand up for her. I'm quite lucky I didn't end up in jail actually, that would have pushed her over the edge.

6 comments:

karengberger said...

Oh, Mags, never a dull moment! There is nothing more awful than feeling that there is a threat to your child; I know that "loaded for bear" surge, and it's not fun. Good for you for defending her.
So glad that the appt. went well, and that she wants to go back again. Best of all is the news that LOVE and TRUST are being given & received. You will get through this. You have each other, and that is the greatest gift. GOd bless you both!

Smileygirl said...

Oh wow. I hope you can get to the bottom of this. This must be so awful for you to not have answers as to why this is happening. You're such a great mother and will do whatever it takes to help little Maddie.

You guys are blessed to have each other. And way to tell that A-hole and his bratty son off! Pat yourself on the back for that!

Busy Bee Suz said...

Her liking the counselor is a great sign...I have a feeling it won't take too long for some information to come out....
You are right to defend your child...we have to do that.

The heater looks cool...like a tv/fireplace.

Keep us updated. :)
sending good thoughts to you and maddie.

Persnickety Ticker said...

OK, officially crying tears of joy!! I am so glad she is coming around and I hope all goes smoothly in getting to the root of the problem. Here's hoping and praying it isn't "something more".

Also very glad you didn't go to jail! Not that I wouldn't have done exactly the same thing if not more...

I can be an obnoxious hot head sometimes.

Bec Furraway said...

Wow Maggie, what an inspiring story. I'm happy I came across your site. I am the author of a book on bullying and also the creator of Uniting Kids www.unitingkids.com, a place for children to find free support during the challenges in their life, so I just love hearing inspirational stories like this. I hope that Maddie is doing well now. Wishing you both well, Bec

KBL 2 ORD 2 SAN 2 LUV said...

Hey, I just read an article about those fireplaces! How cool is that!? Congrats!

I know you will get to the bottom of all that's going on sooner rather than later, but I'm sure for you it can't come soon enough. Hang in there! My prayers are with you and Maddie Girl!