Thursday, December 11, 2008

Just Wondering...

Since its the holidays and its usually this time of year when we really take stock of our lives...well, I do anyway - don't get me wrong, I am grateful for my life year round. Or maybe because I've been reading Twilight...

Lately, I've really started to notice how lonely I am. Lonely because I no longer have my family, yes. But also lonely because I don't have companionship in my life...a significant other. I read my favorite blogs everyday and I cant help but notice that you ladies have found your match...perfect match. Just to name a few: My sweet Karen and her wonderful Gregg, Busy Suz who has been in love for what seems like forever! Smiley and her bantering Tom. Blogistans most recently married KBL and her beloved....who has such warm, caring eyes that in every picture, no matter where they are, they absolutely radiate with the love he has for her!

I'm starting to wonder that some of the decisions I have made in my life no longer have me on a path that intersects with the man who is meant for me.


KBL 2 ORD 2 SAN 2 LUV said...

Not true. Not true. Not true.

I cannot stress enough how NOT TRUE that is. HE is out there.

Yes, every moment of every day I feel Ed's love. He is magnificent. He is my favorite person in the universe. I am eternally grateful to God and the forces that may be that I've been gifted with Ed. It is a humbling thought when I do stop and think about it.

BUT, unfortunately, I have been through the tumultuous times as well. I think that if you ask any of us, we'll tell you the same. I was with someone for most of my 20s and thought that he would be for me what Ed is for me. Life, growing up into my late 20s, and the dissapoint that comes with realizing that who you're with is not the person you thought he was became a drag-down anchor for me.

If only we lived close by. We could share something sweet, enjoy a drink, and talk. I bet it would surprise you how similar we all are really. I bet it would surprise me!

I will tell you one thing though. If I had not keep my heart open and my thoughts positive, Ed would not have been able to enter my soul. Those things act like a padlocked gate to happiness. Believe me, I know.

So, without offending you, please take this little bit of advice...stay positive. Stay happy. Stay lifted. The ONE will gravitate to you in time.

I know too well that when you're feeling lonely, time is like your enemy. But, take time on as your ally. Become your own best friend and your own best company. It will allow time to seem as if it is flying by. And before you know'll be with your own soulmate.

By the way, thank you for the sweet words about my baby doll Ed. Your peace and happiness are in my prayers.

Busy Bee Suz said...

Oh, it is never to late to find love. Don't even think that. You have to be open to it and it will happen for you. Just try not to limit your choices either...I know some people who have been single for a while do that. What about a church group? Single parents group? something like that in your area? Or just take Maddie and get out are bound to run into some single "nice" men.
I found the right person by complete accident and at a very young age....If we had not me, lord knows where I would be.
Just don't give up!!!!!

karengberger said...

I agree with what has already been written, and could not have said it better than our peeps did.
I can add that Gregg and I didn't meet until I was over 30 and divorced. He was 34 and had never been married. I had a very windy road in my 20s, through choices that seemed right at the time, but like KBL's story, didn't lead to lasting happiness...until...I turned the whole thing over to God. It may sound corny, but it's true.
I had a long talk with God and said that I obviously didn't understand this "romantic love business," and I was going to take Him up on His words & let Him be my Husband. I hoped He would send me one that He would choose for me, but I went ahead and got on with making a good life by myself. I volunteered in the community & church, tried a new sport and worked hard at my job. And Gregg did appear. We have had our hurdles to overcome, but it's clearly a gift to be his love.
I believe firmly that God loves you just as much as he loves the rest of us, and has great gifts in store for you...just as a good parent would! (There are lots of promises in the Bible that encouraged me at the time.) Please keep faith that love is possible, while you make the best life you can for yourself and Maddie. I believe your prayers will be answered. Hugs to you from here!

Smileygirl said...

Have you ever considered doing match or eharmony? I ask because a few of my single friends have started this and are really happy with the results. Not all will lead to a life long companion but many have found companionship none the less and it gets them out there in the dating circle and keeps them motivated and energized. Like the others have said it's good to stay positive and keep your mind and options open. Sometimes the person you least expect may be the one you end up with.

KBL 2 ORD 2 SAN 2 LUV said...

Yah, I don't know why I didn't say it before...SmileyGirl is right about eharmony and Match. Amanda over at Nurses Rock is doing right now.

Actually, I'm in the middle of writing up a profile for a very good friend of ours, Justin. He's a great guy, he works with Ed, loyal, handsome, great work ethic, and super compassionate. Life, work, & responsibilities get in the way of meeting someone and getting to know them. As his friends, we can post his profile for him and get him rollin'. Maybe you should have a friend do that for you!

OR, you can go out on a date to San Diego. :-)

Whatevah you and the Madster are up to this week, may you have fun and tons of joy and love.